helping parents move forward to a better life

We want to help you navigate separation and create an amicable parenting alliance so your children can thrive.

we know separation is difficult

Whether you’re in the process of separation, or just considering your options, you might feel that you are on your own, with an immense sense of sadness and uncertainty as to what to do next.

Keeping everyone, especially yourself and the children, feeling safe, calm and optimistic is important while you begin to reshape your family.

Together, with a sense of possibility, we can help you create a life where you and your children will flourish.

our philosophy


compassion


Our philosophy is centred around compassion. We strongly believe that kindness and open-heartedness will help to mould your family into its new shape.

child inclusive


We think it can be very helpful to include the child’s voice, so that you can get a sense of how your child is coping. This will help you and the other parent to co-create a better environment for your child.

family repair


We’re not focused solely on the logistics of separation - we also want to help you foster open communication, resilience and practical tools for co-parenting.


a unique approach to separation

We work with individuals, parents and children to help you through the difficulties of your separation and make the process smoother for all involved.

We help you to move through painful feelings to allow you to create a new parenting relationship to suit the changing shape of your family.

Our approach will help you stay out of court, reduce costs and set you up with an amicable, collaborative parenting alliance, limiting the negative impact of divorce on your family.


  • "There is a reason Bill Hewlett is in such high demand

    In his gentle but implacable way, he opened our eyes - against our will - to our responsibility to build a relationship, being one solely for co-parenting.

    He did this by placing our children in the forefront of our consideration, particularly in terms of how we appear to them. And by showing kindness and compassion (even if anathema in the most destructive of separations), he demonstrated that the other person would come forward, with positive effects, even long before our hearts follow.

    Bella’s role was critical as parents have different incentives to meet, and Bella’s highly constructive and diplomatic approach played a significant role in bringing us both together.”

  • "When I felt anger, Bill showed me a wider perspective.

    When I felt lost, Bill gave me hope. Most of all, Bill kept me focussed on the kids, helping me figure out the core of parenting, of being a dad.”

  • "Civilised separations helped our family understand our situation in a different way

    and we were able to finally communicate in a positive way”

  • "Bill is likeable but with a no nonsense feel

    I would strongly recommend Civilised separations! Thank you Bill!”

  • "Bill has an uncanny ability to cut through the noise

    and to identify the core problems in a relationship and then create an environment where both individuals learn to understand each other without blame, recrimination or falling back into the same old doom-loop. It made me look at my relationship in a very different way and made me a better person. I can categorically say that I would not be married today if my partner and I had not worked with Bill.”


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